tag:bexster.blog.co.uk,2009-11-09:/MokoFeed2009-11-09T02:54:33+01:00tag:bexster.blog.co.uk,2006-06-12:/2006/06/11/confused~871148/#c1218336maia_moves2006-06-12T00:06:04+02:002006-06-12T00:06:04+02:00i think all you need to do is to believe in urself coz everyone of us experience the same thing, some are just strong enough to take the courage and fight this weakness in us... i myself am feeling the same thing at some cases, but i just try to ignore it and try to boost my self esteem... you can do it also... try it.tag:bexster.blog.co.uk,2006-06-01:/2006/06/01/end_of_an_era~847605/#c1177353zzizi2006-06-01T23:20:37+02:002006-06-01T23:20:37+02:00beautifull.<br> it all happens with a reason.just take a few steps behind and you will see your life from a diffrent point of view.take a break and think of what really matters for you.tag:bexster.blog.co.uk,2006-05-26:/2006/05/26/me_fucked_up_maybe~831931/#c1146423pollygarter2006-05-26T23:05:15+02:002006-05-26T23:05:15+02:00Being 'sent' to a counsellor can feel weird, but can also be an opportunity. What's good about a counsellor, is you won't need to protect her or him from the bad bits or worry about them being shocked or bored. <br> Good luck.tag:bexster.blog.co.uk,2006-05-26:/2006/05/19/two_sides_to_every_coin~813443/#c1146393pollygarter2006-05-26T22:58:05+02:002006-05-26T22:58:05+02:00I believe it is possible to move from friendship to lover and lover to friend - but only when neither of you are hurting and the person has not acted maliciously or callously. Sometimes we fool ourselves that we're seeking friendship when we want to rekindle, but sometimes friendship is possible.<br> just my two penn'orth...<br> tag:bexster.blog.co.uk,2006-05-26:/2006/05/26/me_fucked_up_maybe~831931/#c11463082006-05-26T22:39:57+02:002006-05-26T22:39:57+02:00yep i say take more time off<br> <br> thats what im doing<br> work was driveing me insane to<br> <br> i agree go the counciller ive finally got my bum in the nhs hospital<br> and they have a way of makeing you feel normal in a mad mad world<br> <br> the only person self harm hurts<br> <br> is ourselves<br> <br> (((hugs)))tag:bexster.blog.co.uk,2006-05-23:/2006/05/21/can_t_help_but~817948/#c11293502006-05-23T16:07:33+02:002006-05-23T16:07:33+02:00Er, this probably not the time nor the place to add this comment but<br> <br> TAG!<br> <br> You've got to name 10 fictional characters you fancy and then tag 5 more people.<br> <br> Obviously, if you don't feel like it I'll understand.<br> <br> And on at the risk of sounding pretensious. It does get better. Unlike my spelling. xtag:bexster.blog.co.uk,2006-05-21:/2006/05/19/two_sides_to_every_coin~813443/#c1120840masklin2006-05-21T20:54:13+02:002006-05-21T20:54:13+02:00I take it , that like me, you have tried to go back, or more likely, ended up having an affair with someone who was your freind, wow what a mistake. I did it and lost a wonderful friend. It was a loss it took me years to get over. I still think of her now, but you cant go back.<br> <br> All happiness to you.<br> <br> Masklin@hotmail.co.uktag:bexster.blog.co.uk,2006-05-21:/2006/05/19/two_sides_to_every_coin~813443/#c1120440lizdavies2006-05-21T19:39:39+02:002006-05-21T19:39:39+02:00I second that. Pretending to be friends just means one of you is still hoping to get back together. A love affair done doesn't get back to friends for years, and then usually only for the sake of the kids...tag:bexster.blog.co.uk,2006-05-21:/2006/05/21/can_t_help_but~817948/#c1120420lizdavies2006-05-21T19:35:57+02:002006-05-21T19:35:57+02:00You only have to listen to Scott Mills on Radio 1 to know that lots of us have gone a bit psycho when a relationship breaks up. You are grieving for a good thing lost, and part of grief is getting angry - it's just that your lost partner is still there to receive the brunt of your anger and grief. We've all done mad, bad, sad things to regret, so don't blame yourself too much. The good news is you've come to your senses and realised you were a tad off the rails.<br> Cutting won't help you - only increase your bad self image. This guy did love you, so you are a lovable person. OK, it's over now, but there will be someone else out there who will love you even more.<br> Take each day at a time - nobody grieves in a day and gets over it just like that - and try and talk to your friends about it, to get it out of your system in a safe way. It may seem like you are in a dark tunnel, but every little step takes you nearer to the light at the other end. Be strong.tag:bexster.blog.co.uk,2006-05-21:/2006/05/21/can_t_help_but~817948/#c1120406gunner_girl2006-05-21T19:31:17+02:002006-05-21T19:31:17+02:00hey, dont u ever feel stupid, i know exactly how you feel, i used to self-harm and all you're doing is crying out for help and wanting someone to listen, yeah ur stuff is deep, but so is mine and ya no i could tell u stories dat'll make u cringe. dont worry girl, ur strong, ur in control that is what self-harm is all about, the pain you are experiencing mentally, u want to show physically. do u know what i find helps, it may sound ridiculous but if you get an ice cube, leave it on ur arm for a few seconds, ur arm will go numb from the cold, u can feel the water dripping down ur arm and it makes you think blood, try it babe. it might work for you ok. im here for you, i understand. chin up babe xxxxtag:bexster.blog.co.uk,2006-05-21:/2006/05/21/can_t_help_but~817948/#c1120356pipples2006-05-21T19:22:21+02:002006-05-21T19:22:21+02:00woa deep. if you ever want to talk, jus tell me and I'll be there. u may feel like a gal on ur own, but come to me and I'll ty to help. Us gals have to stick together. Your not alone-and i mean this in more ways than one.<br> pip.xtag:bexster.blog.co.uk,2006-05-20:/2006/05/19/two_sides_to_every_coin~813443/#c1114678masklin2006-05-20T09:38:38+02:002006-05-20T09:38:38+02:00Just want to say,' if you have been lovers it is very hard to go back to bing friends, so let hi m go ok'<br> <br> If you have afriend and want to keep that friendship then dont become lovers ok. <br> <br> Lovers is rally just lust on a stick. I few hours of passionate pleasure is nice but has to be paid fir. the cost is your fiendship.<br> <br> How can you look at him/her as a friend. you know every hair and bump on their body .<br> sad , but nothing is the same after that. I know .....<br> <br> masklin@hotmail.co.uktag:bexster.blog.co.uk,2006-05-17:/2006/05/17/how_right_was_i~808200/#c1105090lyndlj2006-05-17T22:43:42+02:002006-05-17T22:43:42+02:00Whats the point? Just remember what goes around comes around;)tag:bexster.blog.co.uk,2006-05-16:/2006/05/15/still_not_smiling~802723/#c1099495Bexstar2006-05-16T21:19:38+02:002006-05-16T21:19:38+02:00thanks guys....<br> <br> things can only get better, or so they say....tag:bexster.blog.co.uk,2006-05-16:/2006/05/15/still_not_smiling~802723/#c10966972006-05-16T12:09:02+02:002006-05-16T12:09:02+02:00Whoah! You've been through it! <br> <br> I'm not close to my family either. A lot of people aren't close to their relatives, so you don't need to feel guilty about that. It just feels crappy when they're ill. When my hubby's dad died I felt shit for not taking the kids to visit him more often.<br> <br> Still, whats done is done.<br> <br> Hang on in there, girl, something good's gotta happen soon.tag:bexster.blog.co.uk,2006-05-15:/2006/05/15/still_not_smiling~802723/#c1095210jantrobus2006-05-15T23:37:09+02:002006-05-15T23:37:09+02:00I send you a hug too...tag:bexster.blog.co.uk,2006-05-15:/2006/05/15/still_not_smiling~802723/#c1094787brokenHaiku2006-05-15T22:26:19+02:002006-05-15T22:26:19+02:00Jesus. Sounds like you are really going through the mill. Be hugged. tag:bexster.blog.co.uk,2006-05-15:/2006/05/14/damn_it~799409/#c10909622006-05-15T00:36:21+02:002006-05-15T00:36:21+02:00He was out of order for leading you on though, girl. And maybe he isn't over you so quickly, maybe its a rebound thing. Perhaps you just need to be patient and let him have a bit of fun. If you love him enough, you can wait....if you really want to!tag:bexster.blog.co.uk,2006-05-14:/2006/05/13/fucked_well_and_truely_up~797418/#c1087111morelearning2006-05-14T04:38:12+02:002006-05-14T04:38:12+02:00Yeah, go tell!tag:bexster.blog.co.uk,2006-05-13:/2006/05/13/fucked_well_and_truely_up~797418/#c10864752006-05-13T22:03:17+02:002006-05-13T22:03:17+02:00Unconditional love is not something to beat yourself up over.<br> <br> In fact - if you have the time - its admirable.<br> <br> If you love him - stick with it. You never know whats gonna happen.<br> <br> Hope it all turns out peachy.<br> <br> tag:bexster.blog.co.uk,2006-05-09:/2006/05/08/the_end~785479/#c1065696Lee2006-05-09T09:42:50+02:002006-05-09T09:42:50+02:00yeah Babe all real. xtag:bexster.blog.co.uk,2006-02-02:/2006/01/31/too_much_too_fast~524007/#c643308merry-b212006-02-02T20:41:22+01:002006-02-02T20:41:22+01:00Good luck to you, that's all I can say to you, this is not going to be easy, further it goes more complicated it will get, but these types of situations are never easy to get out of. Whatever you do, take care and try not to get too hurt or to hurt others involved, especially as there are kids involved.tag:bexster.blog.co.uk,2006-02-01:/2006/01/25/the_start_of_it_all~506296/#c634367Bexstar2006-02-01T00:14:32+01:002006-02-01T00:14:32+01:00Thanks! I'll keep my fingers corssed for that someone too, it might help me get away from the trciky situation I'm in at the mo!tag:bexster.blog.co.uk,2006-02-01:/2006/01/29/the_early_signs_are_bad_very_bad_indeed~517629/#c634359Bexstar2006-02-01T00:12:50+01:002006-02-01T00:12:50+01:00Wish I could take your advice! Am trying very hard to stay out of the whole love thing, but I don't know if it's too late, and even if it's not, is there really a way to avoid it?tag:bexster.blog.co.uk,2006-01-29:/2006/01/29/the_early_signs_are_bad_very_bad_indeed~517629/#c623847morelearning2006-01-29T22:12:23+01:002006-01-29T22:12:23+01:00You know where this is going, don't you?<br> You recognise yourself that it's textbook, and you know that in the textbook you don't come out of it very well. I'm not moralising - but my advice would be to avoid the falling in love bit if you can possibly help it.<br> Fascinating stuff though.tag:bexster.blog.co.uk,2006-01-29:/2006/01/25/the_start_of_it_all~506296/#c623829yvonne20052006-01-29T22:08:02+01:002006-01-29T22:08:02+01:00love is a hard task, i hope you find your way out of our affair without getting too heartbroken. Good luck, and i'm sure someone else will come along who will sweep you off feet, like you deserve!!